Most guys who are having a hard time developing their game already feel intimidated and insecure approaching anyone of the female persuasion, even someone who doesn’t have perfect hair, a hypnotizing smile, and a body sculpted by Aphrodite herself. For such men, the mere thought of talking to a 9 or 10 isn’t even frightening; it’s just sheer lunacy.
Have you ever known the joys of dating a gamer girl? If you haven’t, don’t feel bad, as most guys are in that same boat. If you have, pat yourself on the back; you found yourself a rare one. That’s not to say that girls who play video games are true unicorns, never to be seen but in fantasy and legend, which would be a fallacious assertion indeed.
If Chester Cheetah thought that being cheesy was the pits (whatever happened to that ad campaign, anyway?), he obviously hasn’t confronted dating problems from a geek’s perspective. It ain’t easy being nerdy, bro. I know whereof I speak; my Friday nights used to alternate between D&D gaming sessions with the guys and monthly Smash Brothers tourneys at a local arcade.
I admit, there have been times when I’ve broken down and done the sugar daddy thing. I say this as someone who has invested a considerable amount of time, effort, and emotional energy into learning the kind of pro “game” that could convince women to stop seeing me as a desperate, sweaty nerd and start considering me as a fun sexual partner, and even a boyfriend.
For many of my young nerd-kin struggling to put down the controller for awhile and learn a new kind of Game — the one in which “Didn’t Sleep Alone Last Night” is an unlockable achievement — hot girls are the holy grail. Don’t get me wrong, most geeks are happy to bed almost any female who weighs in south of 300 pounds, especially at first. But everyone wants those perfect specimens who were not born but emerged fully-grown from a beautiful woodland glade somewhere, the product of the hand of Gaia herself.
There’s a lot to be said for cutting out the middle man and getting straight to the point, and when it comes to dating women, that means learning how to get a sugar baby. I talk a lot on this blog about the principles of “game” and what it takes to convince the fairer sex that you’re the kind of dude they should want to spend their time with, and I do think it’s important for just about all guys to be familiar with those strategies. But sometimes you just want to sit back and let your money do the talking.
Traditionally, picking up girls and hunting for a girlfriend have been about as easy and enjoyable as giving a lion a dental cleaning. You somehow gather courage from you know not where to approach your target, pour your most genuine effort into impressing her and getting her interested in you — and then, nineteen times out of twenty, experience the worst sinking feeling known to mankind as you realize she knows what you’re doing and couldn’t be less interested. It’s her rejection that’s responsible for your misery.
Not having a girl is tough, man. I know, I’ve been there. You’re lonely, the only thing you want is not to be lonely, and yet you try and you try and meet nothing but failure. Then you get to go out, alone, and see all the happy couples around you, some of them hitting the PDA so hard, it would be classified as abuse, if PDA were a person. At times it can feel like the game is rigged against you, personally: why else would everyone else get to have a partner, while you don’t?