It just occurred to me to wonder: Why do some guys stress out so much about their penis size? I mean, I know the reasons themselves: Competitiveness with the dicks of other men, fear of disappointing women with small penis sex, personal pride. But what are the reasons behind the reasons?
RED ALERT: Having a small penis presents some real problems during sex for men, so we’re going to go over all this and explain how exactly to overcome the issue.
If you have a tiny member, it’s not like you can realistically do anything about it, nor can you take credit for sporting a monster, so what’s to compete or feel proud over? And as for the girls, isn’t it better to embrace the fact that you actually do have options to compensate in that arena, rather than sit around moping?
Whatever the cause, this issue really gets men twisted into knots. Some studies have shown that most men believe their penis size to be below average, and guys who think this can suffer from low self-esteem and pretty bad feelings of inadequacy. In many cases, they’re also terrified of shame, and will go to crazy lengths to hide their lack of length.
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Some of these guys won’t shower at the gym. They avoid using public urinals. And needless to say, tiny penis sex is out: They’re afraid to pursue women, for fear of what will happen when it’s time for “The Reveal”.
Facts About Tiny Penis Sex
So let’s talk data: The average erect penis size is 5.16 inches long. Very few men go far beyond that, as only 2% of the male population are packing 7 inches or more. But those guys, of course, have a virtually guaranteed job waiting in porn, which I swear is a major source of everyone else’s insecurity. We all watch porn, where we all see guys selected for their absurd size, and it leaves us feeling inferior. Thanks, Ron Jeremy.
But let’s say you really are of below average size, and like most men in that position, you’re worried about your ability to please women sexually because of it. Can small penis sex be satisfying?
Let’s start covering that from an angle that a lot of you guys will probably find amusing. Okay, I admit, I do too, but it’s actually a really effective way to negate tiny penis sex anxiety for plenty of men. I’m getting at the Small Penis Humiliation fetish, here.
That’s right, amigos. If you can’t correct your diminutive dick (and options for that are, sadly, rather limited), why not turn it into an advantage? Femdom – Female Domination – is already the single most popular fetish there is when it comes to searches on porn sites; some men like to take that a step further into having dominant women shame and ridicule them for the colossal failure of having a wee one.
The Small Penis Humiliation fetish is one of the most popular on the internet. A branch of femdom kink, it is actively practiced on cam sites and adult-friendly social media platforms.
This can go hand in hand with feminization, where men are made to put on make-up and/or women’s clothes, and often, cuckoldry, in which men fantasize about their wives or girlfriends having sex with other men (they have to get a properly sized dick somewhere, you see). The fetish can be catered to by sex workers, especially cam girls, or even by actual romantic partners.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I totally get that this approach isn’t for everyone. But if it works for you, then not only is your small penis sex problem solved, you’ve got some fun times ahead!
Small Penis Sex Problem Solutions
Alright, but I’ve yet to actually take the bull by the horns here: Does size actually matter? If you’re reasonably close to the average, probably not; at least, your worrying about it is more likely to give you trouble than your size itself. There does come a point, though, where your manhood really is too little, and it can cause real problems.
Truly tiny penis sex can leave your girl feeling psychologically disappointed, but it can also lead to her receiving significantly less physical sensation from having you inside her. In some cases, you may even have to hear the single worst question a woman can ask during the act: “Is it in yet?” Seriously, ladies, why would you do that?
But worry not, for there are mechanical solutions to this mechanical problem. I recommend relying on the good ‘ol doggy style position, for instance, specifically with the girl’s head and upper body bent down low, her legs as far forward as is comfortable for her, and hard thrusting by the guy. This results in deeper penetration, and therefore, more feeling on the female side (feels pretty good on our end, too!).
Similarly, small penis sex can be significantly improved by the reverse cowgirl position. Have your girl face away from you while she’s “riding” on top, preferably with her feet flat on the bed or floor – basically a squatting position for her, which deepens penetration. You can also tuck a pillow, towel, or something similar under your own hips before she climbs on, causing your erection to jut out further.
And let’s not forget the “piledriver” position. No, I’m not making that name up. In this one, the girl is on her back, legs up and spread widely apart, while you support yourself in the push-up position (hands to either side of her torso, feet together with toes on the bed or floor).
Certain positions can allow a man to achieve deeper penetration during intercourse, thus creating a more satisfying experience for the woman.
As you can likely imagine, some level of physical fitness is required for this one. I’m a bit of a pudgy fellow, myself, so it’s not the best choice for me, but if the other muscles in your body make up for what’s less than ideal in the fun zone, give it a shot.
Really, though, all of that is auxiliary. Good positions never hurt, but here’s something a lot of guys don’t know that a lot of girls really wish they did: Most women aren’t able to orgasm through penile penetration alone. That’s right, fellas.
The real secret to small penis sex is actually a solid tip for sex in general, and that’s to rely on more than just Mr. Johnson. Not to brag at my bros, but this is a game I upped a good while ago, and the ladies have thanked me for it.
The clitoris is where the action really is, and cunnilingus is the best way to get at it. This ain’t just foreplay, guys. Most girls adore it, and there’s nothing wrong with using it to get one off if you finish before she does. Doing this well isn’t too hard: With most women, the key is to keep up tongue pressure on the clitoris at all times; don’t stray. You can penetrate her with your fingers while licking if you like, but don’t let it distract you from the main event.
Studies confirm that MOST women need clitoral stimulation in order to achieve orgasm. By focusing on the clitoris with your tongue and fingers, you can usually satisfy just about any woman, regardless of what your penis size may be.
Speaking of your fingers, I’m sure you realize you can use them, as well. The clitoris is queen here as well, but your fingers aren’t as soft as your tongue, so you don’t necessarily want to go full-tilt on the little nub right away with them. It really depends on the girl’s body, how aroused she is, and just what she happens to like. Read her face. Listen to her. Empathize.
Small penis sex doesn’t have to be a source of anxiety for you, brother, and it definitely doesn’t have to be disappointing for her. You are your own worst enemy on this one.
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But hey, I’m not telling you to get over it; I’d rather you make those feelings of shame and inadequacy work for you. Because if they can motivate you to become a better lover than you ever would have without them, well, who’s really getting the last laugh?